1 of many confessions: I absolutely love Frasier. I spend most of last summer as sad as it sounds, watching every episode of the 11 season show. What I liked about Frasier and what kept me watching, was that there were lessons to be learned throughout the episodes and from different characters.
Frasier is a spin-off from the popular show Cheers which ran from 1982 until 1993. Frasier aired the same year as Cheers ended and celebrated a great 11 years on television in 2004. Frasier is a psychiatrist who moved back to his hometown Seattle after a bitter divorce. Moving from Boston he leaves behind his ex-wife and son to work as a radio psychiatrist in Seattle. At his new job at KACL, he meets his producer Roz who over the years becomes a close friend to him and his family. His father, Martin Crane is a retired detective who got shot in his hip resulting him to walk with a cane. After falling in the bath tub it was decided that Martin moves in with Frasier in a larger apartment. Martin also brings his best friend, his dog Eddie who happens to stare at Frasier for some unknown reason… Frasier’s brother Niles can’t take Martin in as his wife Maris (who never makes an appearance) and Martin don’t get on. In order to help Frasier with Martin, he suggests hiring a health-care professional. This is how Daphne comes to live with Frasier and Martin as Martin’s physiotherapist. Niles falls in love with Daphne and marries her later on in the show.
I’ve rounded up my 6 lessons I’ve learned from watching Frasier (one too many times):
1. Be yourself. Unapologetically.
Frasier was so himself and stuck to his own traits and habits despite any situation. Regardless of his different crowed at work, he didn’t adapt himself to meet everyone’s needs but stuck to his boujee way just like his brother Niles. Even when Frasier is being picked on for his own ways and made fun out of, he doesn’t change himself. He stays true to himself and the person he is proud of to be.
2. Family first.
Although Frasier had many encounters with his father Martin and they didn’t start on the best terms, nor did they have a relationship before they lived together, Frasier and Martin always thought of each other. On a few occasions Martin does remind him of the ‘family first’ motto. We all go through times where we don’t necessarily like our family members after an argument, but they are always there for you. Even if you burn their favourite chair and manage to throw it off the balcony (Frasier reference), you can work through it.
3. Don’t give up on love.
Anyone who has watched Frasier can tell the non-viewers how many relationships Frasier would get into in one season or even in one episode. He isn’t a womanizer but we have watched relationships not work out for him. But despite all the disaster dates, miscommunication and misunderstandings, Frasier does not give up on looking for love. And we can’t forget about how Niles finally confessed his long love for Daphne. Although it was on the night before her wedding to Donny and ignoring that Niles was married at the time to Mel, he finally told her. Throughout the show you see how Niles wanted to pursue Daphne on a few occasions but the lesson to be learned from Niles is to not wait forever. Whatever the moment or situation, get yours. Not to forget that Martin found love too despite his age and his cranky ways.
4. It’s okay to drink a lot of coffee. Or wine.
This is how I justify the amount of coffee I drink, which I do a lot of… But it’s okay! Frasier does it too! I do like that Frasier has his usual coffee place, Cafe Nervosa where he meets Niles and his colleague Roz as well as his dates on occasions. It’s nice to have a place like that and catch up with friends or even discuss important matters. This actually takes me back to when I was in Year 11 aged 16, meeting my friends at the local Starbucks hanging out there for hours endlessly talking. One of my favourite and very coffee drinking episode is Season 1 episode 24, ‘My Coffee With Niles’. As for the wine, you can never drink too much sherry in the comfort of your own home. Whenever Niles comes to visit, its custom that they discus matters over a nice glass of sherry while Martin sticks to his beer.
5. Be cultured. Keep reading.
The number of times when Frasier is about to go into a speech and starts off quoting a great man or great thinker, makes me feel that I need to read more. Also if anyone knows of any good reads, let me know! Frasier is also well educated and well travelled giving him a sense of knowledge on other cultures and even other languages. I also love that anyone who approaches Frasier with anything, he can give an educated opinion or even comment on his knowledge of a specific topic. Maybe sounding like a ‘know-it-all’ at times but still. There is never any harm in reading more. Reading feeds the mind and we can all benefit from feeding out minds more and more.
6. Not everything needs your opinion or advice.
Frasier loves nothing more than helping people and giving advice, while it helps if you’re a caller calling into his radio show but if you’re Niles, sometimes you can do without it. Frasier is known to get involved in situations which don’t actually concern him but he does it with his best intention. He just wants to help those, who he loves. He really does have a good heart and just wants to help.
Any other opinions on Frasier?
– Nadz x